As a woman, you really hope to walk down the aisle with the man you love. But what if your boyfriend doesn’t seem to be ready to take the relationship to the next level? How to make him commit to you?
Here are 7 things about men all women should know!
1. Don’t Date More Than One Man!
Some ‘relationship experts’ actually recommend dating a few men at a time until one of them is ready to commit to you. I can only shake my head when I see this type of relationship advice being circulated around the internet.
This is probably the fastest way to kill your chances of marriage. How can you expect a man to want to propose to you if you are still dating around? What would you feel if a man is dating a few women at a time? Will you feel safe to marry him? Most probably not!
2. Don’t Play Hard to Get! You Can Lose a Good Man Because of That!
(Note: This advice is for women who are still looking for the right man.)
Another dangerous advice that you see on many relationship websites. But you know what? Playing hard to get can cause you a lose a sweet potential boyfriend or husband!
Here is the reason:
Most Men Are Clueless!!!
When you are sweet to him at one moment and playing hard to get at another moment, you are confusing him. As I have already mentioned, most men are clueless!
A confused man is not going to move the relationship forward. He may be very interested in you but if you keep on confusing him, he may just decide to stop pursuing you.
There are many men out there who are really good boyfriend and husband material. But they are really afraid of rejection. So do yourself a favor. If you are really interested in a guy, don’t play hard to get.
3. Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder
You probably love your boyfriend very much. That is why you are trying to figure out how to get him to commit to you in the first place. However, regardless of how much you love this man, it is important not to revolve your whole life around him.
From time to time, it is good for you to be busy with your own activities and spend some moments away from your boyfriend. This may sounds a little bit counterintuitive. But I am pretty sure you have heard of this word of wisdom, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”.
By doing so, you are giving your boyfriend the opportunity to miss you. He will begin to realize that you are a very important woman in his life.
4. Don’t Push Him Too Hard
So you want to get him to commit to a relationship? Well, don’t push too hard! It will just backfire. The harder you push, the faster he runs away. Doing so may even lead to a break up.
5. Offer to Go Dutch from Time to Time
Most men will usually offer to pay for everything on a date. You can definitely accept your boyfriend’s offer graciously. However, you should offer to go Dutch from time to time. In fact, you may even want to give him a treat occasionally. Your boyfriend will definitely appreciate your gesture.
Do not underestimate what this simple gesture can do for you! Your boyfriend is going to see you as a virtuous woman who is definitely worth committing to.
6. Give Your Man the Chance to Be a Hero
Believe it or not, every man wants to be a hero, especially to the most important woman in his life. That is why it is so important for you to give your boyfriend the chance to be your hero.
And no! You don’t have to put yourself in dire situations so that your boyfriend can brave all dangers in order to save you. That’s not what I am talking about.
I am talking about the simple problems in life.
The light is not working? Get your boyfriend to fix it! (Of course, make sure he really knows how to fix the light! You don’t want to end up embarrassing him instead!)
After he has done that for you, praise him and make him feel good. Show your appreciation. Make him feel like a hero and he will want to take care of you. He will want to commit to the relationship and be your hero forever.
7. Defend Him When Necessary
Perhaps your mum does not have a good impression of your boyfriend. And you know what? Men don’t really like to deal with a difficult future mother-in-law.
If you think your mother has crossed the line, you will have to stand up for him and defend him.
Just think about it this way. If you are in the same situation as your boyfriend, you will want your boyfriend to defend you too. If he doesn’t do so, then he is probably not the guy that you should marry. Make sense?
Perhaps these 2 guys are worth marrying?
by Stuart
Great article! One more tip here. Don’t try to change a man! Men hate it when women try to change them.
Some really helpful tips in this article.
One thing I’ve learned from this type of situation is that as women we really have to listen and believe men when they tell us right from the beginning what type of relationship they are seeking. When a man says he’s been hurt and he wants to take things slow and not jump into anything too quickly, I intrepret that as he only wants something casual. He’s not ready for a serious relationship, and I think it’s ok to not want a serious relationship as long as you are honest. All too often, however, when a man tells a woman he’s not ready to be serious, but she really likes him and it seems that he really likes her, a woman will think that he might change his mind — or that she can make him change his mind, but many times he won’t. So, now, the woman is left broken-hearted and the guy is confused because he thought he made his intentions clear. It’s a lose lose for everyone.
Also, elaborating on what’s already been said.. DON’T play hard to get. Although there are many techniques to win a mans heart, this one will just annoy him. Men do not like games, and they like things to the point!
Lisa Harris
I think that you are right on here! Especially the part about letting your man be the hero. I think that every man wants to feel important sometimes, if not all the time. Great article! I look forward to reading more from you in the future.
This article is just so wonderful. it works for me perfectly. any one who tries these tips will not regret
Men can imply through word and deed they will want commitment at a future date, etc to get the milk without buying the whole cow. The poor cow in the meantime is providing as much love, tenderness etc she can, removing herself from the market of single men, behaving as if she is no longer single. Un-necessarily missing out on offers from men who are marriageable. Women need to remember if you don’t have a ring on your finger stating intent of marriage and a date set, you ARE single and you should not take the guy too seriously. Easier said than done I know. But you must be aware of this and not allow years to go past without serious commitment. If a man wants to marry a woman, he will get over his rejection fear, his annoyance about her not being totally available. Men are a lot more resiliant than this article implies. Ladies must guard their hearts, there are a lot of unscrupulous men about who will pretend all sort of things are in the way of marriage, when they just want good sex and no commitment. If commitment scares him after a reasonable courtship, open the door for him on his way out, he will go anyway. If he wants to do the right thing by you, he will swim the deepest ocean for you. When you have to look in a column or book that starts with “How to get him to commit”, you know you are on the wrong track. A man who wants to commit will, and the worthwhile ones who will stick marriage best are the ones who do it without any coercion or encouragement.
You are worth the affections of a man who cannot live without you as his wife, don’t settle for less.