Have you ever wonder why you keep on falling for the wrong guy?
Well, believe it or not, it is due to the reptilian part of your brain! And this is the part of your brain that you have little to no control over. It all happens in the subconscious level!
Let me explain further.
David DeAngelo once said, “Attraction is not a choice.” And when he says that, he is referring to both men and women.
Attraction Is Not A Choice for Men
Most probably, you already know that men are visual creatures. That is how we are wired psychologically.
When we guys see an attractive lady, we are automatically attracted to her. Our reptilian brain is taking control here. And it all happens in split seconds. We don’t have the time to ask ourselves whether we are attracted to her. We have no choice but to be attracted by her!
Attraction Is Not A Choice for Women Too!
This is true for women too! Women are also psychologically wired, just like men, except that they are wired in a different way.
Men are attracted by beauty. Women are attracted by CONFIDENCE!
When a woman sees a man who is extremely confident about himself, she cannot help it. Her reptilian brain is taking control here! Within split seconds, she is already attracted to him. You don’t see a woman taking the time to ask herself whether she is attracted to that guy. She has no choice.
Some women are probably going to deny it. But trust me! At the end of the day, not many women can resist the charm of a man who is extremely sure of himself.
But Why Is That So?
Well, it is all about the survival instinct in women. Although we are now living in a civilized world, part of us still remain in the cave men period.
During the cave men period, in order for a woman to survive, she needs a strong man to protect her and her offspring. And of course, mating with a strong man is going to increase the chances of producing a strong and healthy baby.
Obviously, in modern times, women are no longer looking for a strong man, at least not in the physical sense. The new strength they are looking for is ‘confidence’.
And when you think about it from the ‘survival instinct’ point of view, it certainly make sense. In general, a confident man tends to be more successful in life, which means he has the ability to make more money and provide for her and her offspring.
Unfortunately, in the real world, this is not always true. A man can be really successful in all areas of his life but just don’t feel confident around women. On the other hand, you will see men who are so sure of themselves but when you take a look at what they have achieved, you see nothing.
That is why you see so many women falling for jerks, or you can call them bad boys. They are so confident about themselves that women can’t help but fall for them. These guys usually understand women’s psychology so well that they know how to manipulate women like a puppet.
Which Guy Are You More Attracted To?
Let’s conduct a short but simple experiment together.
Imagine there are 2 guys.
The first guy is just a normal every day guy. He is so happy to date you. He keeps on telling you how blessed he is to be with you. And he calls you every now and then. And he is always the one who calls you first. You don’t even have to call him.
The second guy is extremely confident about himself. He may enjoy dating you but he doesn’t put you on a pedestal. In fact, he makes it feel like it is your honour to be able to go out with him. You always have to be the one to call him first.
I am going to make an assumption here. I am going to assume that you like the second guy more. Why? Because there is an aura of confidence surrounding him!
This simple experiment is just to prove a point. Women find it hard to resist confidence.
So if you keep on asking yourself question such as:
Why do I keep on falling for the wrong guy?
Why do I keep on choosing a jerk?
I am going to tell you that it is not your fault! You did not fall in love with a jerk! You simply fall in love with confidence!
Learn how to choose the right guy! You deserve a man who is confident but is not a jerk.